Is Self Care Needed More Than One Day A Week?

I’ll admit, I forget about myself often to the point where I am about to have a meltdown. I work in a pretty stressful environment full time, a full time working mom who hears “Mom” like a million times a day, a wife, side hustle with this Naturalle Drea and so much more. I am always working on something or doing something and it can just be so easy to forget to take care of myself. My mind is always running a million miles a minute trying to focus on work, keeping my household together, remembering to do something, filming and creating content. I am trying to practice more self care but should it be limited to just one day a week?

I see a lot of people dedicating one specific day to self care like #SelfCareSunday on Instagram. I don’t see anything wrong with that but what happens when you step in the door to work on Monday morning and that stress free feeling leaves? Everyone’s life is not the same, there are people who don’t have children or have high stress work environments but what about those who do? I feel you need more than one day of self care help.

I am still learning about what self care is but it is defined as the practice of taking action to preserve one’s own health. I know for a fact that being stressed out almost everyday is not good for your health. It really does take a toll on you and when you have those high stress environments, you really need some self care daily to help you unwind and relax.

Self Care can be so many things like treating yourself to a mani and pedi, a trip to Sephora, at home spa day and so much more. Self Care can also be things not beauty related like reading, journaling, exercising and etc. I try to start my day with some quiet time and prayer. It helps to put me in positive space before the day starts. If you are not religious or pray, you can meditate or sit in silence for a few minutes.

Hopefully there are more good than bad days but for those crazy stressful days, you may need a little more T.L.C. to help you destress. I like to unwind with some of my favorite shows. It helps me not think about the crazy day I had and I get caught up in a fictional world. I also enjoy a glass (maybe more than one) my favorite wine or some calming tea. I also write for 15 minutes a day(not everyday but I’ll say weekly lol) to help clear my head and get all those negative thoughts out. I am not so consistent everyday with everything but I at least do something self care related.

I just feel that self care shouldn’t be limited to just one day. Again, it may be different for some people that need only a day or others may need to practice self care daily. I am one of those who need some kind of daily self care. I just wanted to encourage you to try daily self care to see if it helps or improves your mood.

How do you practice self care? Is it once a week, daily or monthly? Comment below and let me know. Have a great weekend and see you guys Wednesday!

Black Owned Business Feature:Refineful

Can you believe it is March already and still getting snow lol? 2019 has started off pretty interesting, I am ready to see what else the year has in store. Today I will be sharing another Black Owned Business Feature.

I met Ann-Marie Watt, the owner of Refineful at BlogHer last year. She was just so dope, funny and just down to earth. We all had a group of fellow bloggers, entrepreneurs and girl bosses that we found during the conference and stuck together for the two days. Ann-Marie actually had samples of her products that she gave out to everyone and when I first tried her oatmeal soap, I was hooked.

Refineful was created in 2011 following her love of lip balms ( I am notorious for losing lip balms and finding them months later lol). She wanted to create lip balms that kept your lips moisturized and had safe ingredients. After the lip balms, she started creating soaps that are just amazing! The soaps leave your skin feeling moisturized, soft and just clean lol.

The main thing I love about this company is that 10% of the company’s proceeds goes towards Flint Kids. If you are unfamiliar on what is going on in Flint, MI (I highly suggest you educate yourself if you do not), they have been living with contaminated water since 2014 and to this day, it has not been resolved. This touched my heart that she was giving back because it seems like this problem is not a priority and it just needs to be addressed. Every little bit counts so not only are you supporting a Black Owned Business, you are supporting a town in need.

You can check out Refineful right here https://refineful.com and I highly recommend the lip balms of course, the oatmeal and coconut soaps. Let me know if you pick up something and see you guys Thursday.

Black Owned Business Feature: The Precious Home

I can’t believe it is February already! I am so ready for the nice weather to get here, we had a little preview this week but Winter will be back soon lol. Today’s Black Owned Business Feature is a pretty new company and a recommendation from Ivy’s Tea Co(I talk about this company a lot if you haven’t noticed lol). If you guys know me, I love candles and I knew I had to support The Precious Home.

The Precious Home was created by Dacia Page in 2018. The vision for this brand was to create candles to help you enjoy the space you are in. I just love that their philosophy is a this bible verse from Proverbs which fits the company so perfectly: A HOUSE IS BUILT BY WISDOM AND BECOMES STRONG THROUGH GOOD SENSE. THROUGH KNOWLEDGE ITS ROOMS ARE FILLED WILL ALL SORTS OF PRECIOUS RICHES AND VALUABLES(Proverbs 24:3-4) The Precious Home is not just about the candles but is also an Interior Design company and offers E-Designs as well.

What is so unique about The Precious Home’s candles is that they are made with 100% Soy wax and free of dyes. I didn’t realize that some candles contain a lot of harmful ingredients and soy wax is a safer alternative to use for candles. It is also eco friendly and from American grown soy beans. I noticed the difference whenever I burn these candles verses other ones I own. The ones made with soy wax burn so evenly and do not burn the sides of the container.

Whenever I burn one of these candles, it does make home feel better and cozy. I just loves these candles and their unique scents.

They also just launched a massage candle just in time for Valentine’s Day or any relaxing day. I can’t wait to try mine soon!

I highly recommend everything from The Precious Home. You can check them out here: https://www.theprecioushome.comĀ 

Please support this Black Owned Business and I will see you guys tomorrow!

Sometimes It’s Hard….

I often visit my old blogging platform and came across this post I did back in July. It made me think about what is currently going on and about life. Life is not meant to be easy, there are going to be some rough times. I just wanted to spread some encouragement today. Enjoy!

You know when you keep thinking of something and you just feel like you have to get it out? That was me before sitting down to write this post. I had something else planned to write but I kept thinking…sometimes its hard and it just evolved from there.

We all heard the sayings, life isn’t fair, life is hard and so on. Sometimes life can be hard but we don’t experience it for long. There are so many things that I want to do but I know I can’t do a million things at once. I can’t just pick and go anymore, I’m someone’s parent now. There are times I want to but I know things have to be planned out now. I will get to those places I want to go, just have to be patient and plan it out.

It seems like we focus so much on what is hard about life that we forget about the easy stuff. We sometimes forget about all the good things that happen and to be grateful for getting through those rough patches. You may not like your living situation but you have a roof over your head and a place to call home. You may not like the place of employment but you have an income and can say you have a job. We are somewhat taught by society to focus on those hard times, it makes us forget about the good in the world.

I remember a time that I took my son to Chick Fil A and it was super crowded. I think it was one of those days that there was no school and all the parents were thinking the same thing lol. I kept thinking we weren’t going to find a a place to sit and I know he wanted to sit inside and eat. My son asked about where we were going to sit and I said I hope we can find a seat when the woman in front of me turns around and says to her friend to save a table and she said I got you. She didn’t have to do that but it made me forget the crowded place and the worry about finding somewhere to sit. It was such a nice act of kindness. I was super thankful and so appreciative. It made me think about doing more random acts of kindness to spread more positive vibes around. We need that more than ever today.

I just want to encourage all of you reading this to think about the good more than the bad. Yes there is a lot of horrible and bad things happening but it takes a few seconds to think of something good and it could change your whole mood.