Naturalle Drea

You know, I am loving that trend asking some celebrities what they were like in the 90’s and is such nostalgia seeing your favorites back then and missing a time when things were amazing. There was nothing like the 90s and a lot of us wish we can go back. I miss the time when things seems so easy and the world wasn’t in a lot of chaos.

Anyway I honestly want to normalize not commenting on women’s bodies when they look pregnant or we have gained extra weight or our appearance is different. You honestly don’t know what that woman is going through and she may be going through a difficult time like health issues that is causing the weight gain, loss of pregnancy, difficulty conceiving when she really wants to start a family and more. There are women out there who really want to be mothers but the journey is hard or some may never be able to carry children and that can be really heartbreaking. A lot of us choose not to disclose what is going on and carry that internally so it hurts or triggers emotions when asked about kids or asking if you are carrying.

There have been instances with me when I’ve had people assume or ask if I was pregnant. The extra weight I’ve gained sits in my face and on my stomach and it is worse when I’m bloated around that time of the month. I have to politely say that I’m not or have to give disclaimers when I film full body videos. It is rude to assume in my option because I could be someone who has lost multiple pregnancies or having a hard time with carrying children. It is also rude on how you say it to someone. Blurting out “Is that a bump” or “Is there something I should know” while pointing to our midsection is super rude. Even if we were pregnant, it is our choice to disclose it. I’m not ready to talk about what I’ve been through but it can be hurtful. Also I am aware that my appearance is different now and I’ve gained weight. I haven’t been the best at being active and all but I am working on it. I don’t need it to be pointed out when you see me, I am aware and it’s annoying having to hear it and also hurts.

I don’t know if people will ever think before saying something about a woman’s appearance but it should be normalized not to. We are aware of how we look, we are aware of what we have been through and what is going on. We just don’t want the reminders of it.