Naturalle Drea

I actually had another post for today but this was on my mind since yesterday. If you are on any social media outlet, you’ve probably seen about the tragic and untimely passing of Jacky-Oh. She was on Wild N Out and was a friend, daughter, sister, partner and mother. It was said that she went to Miami for a Mommy Makeover and had some complications that lead to her passing. It just broke my heart because she had 3 young children that now have to navigate life without their mom. She was really young and it was just a shock to see about it. What really bothered me was all the negativity surrounding her death and it just had me thinking while I was washing my hair.

It just baffles me how people always have something to say about someone they really don’t know and it is negative majority of the time. I’ve read that she was sacrificed by her partner, why didn’t he marry her, why did she have to get that surgery, shaming her for it, saying she got the surgery because her partner was out there cheating and so on. Don’t people realize 3 innocent children just lost their mother, a family is mourning the loss of their loved one and people are focusing on the negative or what they heard or read somewhere. We don’t personally know these celebrities and hate we feel so entitled and feel the need to put out thinks pieces on them when we don’t really know them.

This hits a nerve with me because I am a mother and I couldn’t imagine what her children must be going through. It also hit a nerve because I know what it is like to go through growing a life, all the changes that goes on with your body, the pressure to “snap back” and look like your old self and so on. Your body goes through a major change which is beautiful but a lot at the same time. You are bringing a life into this world but at the same time you may not like how your body changes. I honestly struggled a bit after having my son and still kinda of struggling with embracing the way I look. I can empathize with why some women want to get surgery or Mommy Makeovers. I completely understand. I would not go under the knife myself but years ago I actually wanted breast implants. I was not happy with my smaller size and it was a struggle at times to find cute tops that fit properly and of course my friends or women with bigger boobs told me I had nothing to complain about, I looked fine the way I was, I don’t want bigger boobs and so on. I didn’t get the surgery but got my taste of them after having my son. I wished they stayed lol but I am happy with the size now.

So I can totally understand why women get breast implants, BBLs, lipo, fillers and so on. I don’t judge anyone wanting to make themselves feel good when they look in the mirror and just want to be happy with themselves especially after having children. And we need to stop expecting women to “snap back” or comment on the weight they’ve gained or their appearance. We’re in a fragile state and it is not helpful at all. Even though my son is 11 now, it took me a long time to accept this new post baby body and love it. I’m struggling now with the extra weight I’ve put on since the pandemic and that will be in another post but stop shaming us.

I often get triggered and inspired by events that happen and just have to write about it. This particular one just hit a nerve with me on how insensitive people are. Also, people mourn the loss of a loved one in different ways. Grief is different for everyone and no one should be shamed for it because there is no right or wrong way to mourn someone you lose. I hope Jacky’s family finds peace and comfort during this hard time and she rests in peace. It is just sad the things I’ve seen, she is not here to defend herself and it is just so….it’s just a lot.