Naturalle Drea

I’ve written about friendships in the past and still trying to figure out why they are still so difficult to maintain, especially as adults. I know as a person you are supposed to grow and evolve into the person you are supposed to be but it is crazy how certain friends do not grow with you. I can understand if you start to have different view points, difference of opinions or just grow apart because you are not the same from when the friendship first started years ago. People become jealous of others, people don’t like how others are moving or evolving, they have a partner that has a negative impact on them and it could also cause a drift. But what if everything seems to be good, well from your end and things fall apart and you don’t know why.

I’m actually experiencing this myself at the moment and have been trying to figure out what I did to rub people the wrong way. I’m in a group chat and lately I’ve noticed when I text that I miss everyone, see how everyone is doing, when can we get together…crickets but when others text, there are almost instant answers and responses. I started to feel some type of way and just held back from chiming in or responding. I don’t know if it worth asking what I did or anything..I mean should I even ask? I have others that were close and I’m noticing they are being distant. I am understanding if you are going through something and you need your space, that is totally fine. But I’ve noticed that whenever I reach out to check in or want to get together, there is a very delayed response and empty promise of hanging out but then I see online you’re out with other friends and stuff. Like if you no longer want to hang out with me, just say so. I may be hurt at first but I’ll eventually get over it.

I could be getting a taste of my own medicine on how I’ve treated others that I used to call a “friend”. I never confronted, just started distancing myself and I never heard from them again. I guess it was the best to do so but friendships should not be so difficult. We are all adults and should be able to have those conversations and all. We should be able to call each other out on our BS and work to mending things. There are instances where the relationship is beyond repair and that is okay to realize as well. I know I am not the best but I do try and want to be a better friend. I don’t like confronting others or having those difficult conversations or asking those questions but maybe I should start. I do want to establish more friendships with others but afraid they may not last so long. I just need to take the risk and try.

Do you struggle with maintaining friendships as adults? Let’s chat