Drea Notes Is Relaunching!!

Some of you may be wondering what Drea Notes is and what is exactly is relaunching. I wanted to launch a monthly newsletter for the longest time but I let fear get in the way. I wanted an outlet to connect with my audience outside of social media because you never know when it will shut down and we don’t own our content on there. I wanted a space to talk and connect with my audience about things behind the blog and in life. So April 2019, I hit the publish button on my first newsletter.

I was scared that no one would subscribe or even read it every month but I am thankful for those who did subscribe and kept opening it every month. The newsletter was going great until I noticed not as many people were reading it, people weren’t subscribing and so on. I got really frustrated and ended it a few months ago.

It keeps tugging at me to start up again and keep going. I shouldn’t of given up so easy. There were people that were reading and still opening it every month. I took some time to do a little research about newsletter and Drea Notes will be relaunching August 12! I’m excited and can’t let fear and frustration keep getting in the way. I am going to keep going I hopes of reaching new people and keep those connections outside of social media.

You can click this link and sign up to receive Drea Notes every month: http://eepurl.com/gjPrl5

So..about that Red Table Talk and Marriage…

I am pretty sure most of you viewed the most recent Red Table Table with Will and Jada addressing the entanglement controversy around their marriage. I like to do my research, watch things fully before forming my opinion on things. Just about everyone has their own opinion and views on marriage. People also have their opinions on other people’s relationships and marriages, especially those in the public eye. We already scrutinize and judge everything they do publicly. There have been numerous things that have happened publicly that we all had to put our 2 cents into like cheating scandals, having a child outside of the marriage or relationship, divorce, abuse, addiction and so on. We feel entitled to know what is going on because everything is public anyway so we need to make it known how we feel.

I know a few of my followers are married and most are either single or dating. Its hard when you see these marriages unfold in the public eye and it can change and construe your views on what marriage should be. Every marriage is going to be different and you should strive to have a marriage that is your own, something that will last and something not from the headlines. I’ve seen the good, the bad and the ugly of marriages and learned what I wanted out of it and what I didn’t want. I didn’t want something that other people had, I wanted my own.

I have only been married for 3 years and have my views and opinions on marriage that I’ve learned over the years and in my current marriage. Marriage is no easy walk in the park and something you have to keep fighting for. It is not something that you can just walk away from when things get hard or you don’t like something. You have to keep working on the partnership and working to be on the same page. Communication is so key in a marriage, people are not mind readers. You have to talk things out and say how you feel. You have to keep the love and romance alive and keep things interesting. Your marriage is just between you and your spouse, no one else should have an opinion about what you should be doing in your marriage. Marriage does seem like a lot of work but if you have someone that is wiling to put in the same effort and work, it makes it easier. I am so thankful to have that in my husband and have someone who is willing to work together on this marriage.

So my thoughts/observation on the episode……. honestly, we never would of known about what happened if August didn’t open his mouth about it. We honestly don’t know what happened between them except for what has been said publicly so that is all we have to go off from. Many have speculated that he did this because he just dropped an album but we really don’t know. I felt that he should of kept that to himself. I also felt like Jada and Will had to open old wounds and address this matter again because light was shed on it from watching the Red Table Talk. It seemed like there was an avoidance to even speak about what actually happened and like pulling teeth to address things. Will looked really hurt having to talk about this again. I hated when they said “we ride together, we die together, bad marriage for life” laughed and fist bumped. Well hate is a strong word but that didn’t sit right with me. To me it is nothing to be proud of to say you have a bad marriage and ya’ll are just going to ride it out until death do you part. But who am I to judge because that is not my marriage or problem.

There has always been speculation and scrutiny on the Smith’s marriage but what they do is their business. I commend them for addressing this and talking about what happened, how they have dealt with it and moved forward. I feel like we should be careful who we call marriage “goals” especially celebrities because their marriage is not your marriage. Their values and how they are operating in their marriage may not fit yours. You should want to be your own marriage goals so it lasts until death do you part. I just feel like someone else’s marriage and what they do and how they operate in their marriage is none of my business and shouldn’t be anyone else’s. Yes we are going to have our opinions if things are made public but its none of our business.

I’ve grown up seeing the traditional marriage. The one where the husband and wife have have been married for 50 or more years, they went through the storms together, they married young, traveled, raised children, retired together and lived a full life. You don’t see a lot of that anymore and I hope to have a marriage for at least that long.

I remember when my husband and I were on our honeymoon and met this group of elders. One woman I spoke with just lost her husband and was married for 47 years. She told us to love each other, enjoy each other, have fun and do things with each other. She told me that she saw so much of herself in me and just wished us well along with the others in the group. I just felt like that was a blessing to even receive that kind of marriage advice and it just seemed so easy to follow. It made marriage sound so easy, simple and fun. I honestly never forgot that piece of advice.

Oh and the Internet is just undefeated. Ya’ll are so fast with the memes and videos after something happens. Let me know your thoughts on this situation or marriage in general. See you guys Thursday!

YouTube Fridays: Using A Mousse To Style My Wash N Go

As some of you may or may not know, I also have a YouTube channel that I post videos to every Friday(make sure you are subscribed if you are not already). I would love to attempt to record and upload more videos but I’ll stick with once a week for now. I already have a lot on my plate with working from home and keeping sane during this pandemic.

Today I am kind of starting my Wash N Go series up again that I started a few years ago on my channel. I would basically use different products each week to wash and style my hair during the Summer months. So today I tried using a mousse for the first time and really love my results. I used the Hydrating Vitamin Curl Mousse by Bask & Bloom (Black Owned Business by the way) to style my hair. I used this mousse before for another style but wanted to try it for a wash n go and it was successful.

What are currently loving to wash and style your hair with? Let me know so I can check it. Hope you have a great weekend and see you next Tuesday!

~***Drea Notes***~

I have been a little anxious to get out the house more to stores but still want to be safe about being out and about. I just hope they get this virus under control soon.

I think my husband and I are addicted to oysters now lol. A new seafood place opened up near me and we have been ordering them like every week lol. I want to get some crab legs next time because I have not had them in a long time lol.

Trying To Give Myself Grace…

I had another post planned for today but this was just on my heart and mind to write about. I love being a blogger/content creator/YouTuber but it can be a lot at times. I do the best I can with what I have but feel at times it is not good enough. You know the saying, there is enough room for everyone but sometimes it feels like it isn’t at times. There are so many different niches and content that people can talk about so there is something for everyone. You have bloggers that do book reviews, talk about motherhood, movies, tv shows and so much more.

I can be really hard on myself sometimes about my blog and my content. I feel left out when I don’t jump on the challenge trends right away or feel I need to do what everyone else is doing to be recognized more. I try not to get too caught up in analytics and numbers because it frustrates me so much. I try not to complain about much but its hard keeping this all inside. I know it is bad to complain and rant on social media about it but where can I talk about my woes and frustrations? I often get caught up in other’s successes and wondering what I have to do to get views and numbers like that. I get caught up about if my content is good enough to stand out and get those numbers like my fellow content creators or are people not checking for me like that?

There are times I feel like trying to be a successful content creator is like a game with some people. Only following you to get their follower count up and never engage with you or your content but you engage with them and then they unfollow you. You engage with some people and they will only follow or like your content afterwards or not at all. You comment on their blog posts and they don’t even respond or stop by your platform. People will watch your IG stories and never engage but you engage with them. I thought blogging and content creating was a community, not a game. I thought we were supposed to support each other, share what each other is doing and so on. I don’t know if I’m supposed to share everything you do, comment, like subscribe to everything to get the same support back. It should be genuine, if I like you content, I’m going to like it, comment, share if I think others would benefit from it. I’m not going to do it just to get you to share my content.

Please don’t get me wrong, I am really happy for everyone who has success. When they hit 10k on IG, secure a sponsored post, make more money from their content than last year, become a brand ambassador, do a collaboration with a brand. I root for everyone, no hating over here. I just need to learn to give myself grace and know I have good content. There are other inspired by me and what I’m doing and they honestly keep my going. I love my little online tribe. I’ve given up on the friend/family support a long time ago. Everyone is not going support what you do and you can’t force them. I love doing what I do and even if I don’t make a dime from this, I’m doing this because I love it. It felt good to get that out and you won’t see me talk about this again. I just need to give myself more grace. See you guys tomorrow.